“Don’t get near to the candle, you’ll get burnt.” “Don’t play with the knife, it will hurt you.” Sounds familiar? I am sure that all of us have heard these words from our parents when we’re kids. Or maybe we’ve also said these words to our kids? :-)

I am very sure that every parents care about our children, and always try their best to protect them from anything that will harm or hurt them. But, do we realize that there are some things that will hurt and harm our children more than a knife or a candle flame? They are words that we said to them!

Yes, words that we say to our children may harm them and hurt them more than a knife or a candle flame. And often, it left a deep scar that still unhealed until they grown up.
Words do hurt. Not because they are words, but because they actually mean something. In fact, we can hurt somebody unintentionally not because what we've done to them, but by what we've said to them.

In this article, I don’t want to talk about how we should deal with our children, but more about what we should do to ourselves. As we improve our self development, I believe we could find the right words that we should say to our loved ones.
Back to our issue, words have power because they create impressions, images and expectations. They build psychological connections. They influence how we think. Since thoughts determine actions, there's a powerful connection between the words we use and the results we get.

Different words evoke different feelings and thoughts. Poorly chosen words can kill enthusiasm, have an impact on self-esteem, lower expectations and hold people back. Well chosen ones can motivate, offer hope, create vision, impact thinking and alter results. I learnt in my years in management that my words have power over my thoughts and actions. They also have an impact and can influence people I speak to.

If you want to be a winner in each area of your life, learn to harness your word power to work for you, not against you. Select words that create a visual of the desired outcome; and choose each word as if it mattered. You might be surprised how much it does.

Words that you speak, both to yourself or to others, comes from your mind. So, be careful of the words that you feed your mind. Here are some tips:
1. Learn to detect your negative thoughts and feelings and stop it in its tracks. Change them into positive ones.
2. Feed your minds with positive things
3. Read inspirational and motivational books and articles
4. Find people that encourage and make you feel more positive
5. Distance yourself from those who always discourage and make you feel negative with everything, including your life.

Finally, I would like to quote Jennie S.Bev’s saying in her blog, “You are what you read, hear, and see. You are what you think you are. After all, what you know and say about yourself is more important than what people think they know and say about you.”
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