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7 Reasons Why Holding Grudges Hurts
By:Audley Stephenson

Harbouring negative feelings against a friend who's wronged you is a natural human urge that many of us have difficulty suppressing. Part of the reason is because we invested so much of ourselves plus time and energy in trying to make the relationship a success.

We took a risk by opening up and placing our trust and faith in another person and it backfired.

While you have every right to be upset, the question is, when do you let go? At what point do you say to yourself, "Okay, I'm going to move on now."?

Here's a list of seven reasons why you should fight through the hurt and not hold grudges:

- Living in the past influences your future relationships and prevents them from progressing.
- Negative emotions that accompany grudges drain a great deal of emotional energy and can leave you feeling irritable and anxious.
- Grudges can contribute to physical stress such as high blood pressure and other health issues.
- It causes you to divert your attention from other important aspects of your life that require attention.
- Holding onto feelings of resentment prevents you from truly being healed.
- Grudges can alter your view of the world and cause you to be less objective when faced with similar situations.
- You can become consumed from a mental standpoint by plotting revenge or replaying the events of what happened over in your mind.

Grudges have this nasty way of staying with you like a lingering cough during flu season, and its affects can be hazardous to us.

The decision to turn the other cheek is a difficult decision to make because our head and heart are telling us two different things.

We may know in our own minds that holding grudges it isn't the best thing to do and that it's holding us back from living the fullest possible life however, if we haven't let go of the pain in our hearts, then it becomes to even think about moving ahead.

The key is to learn from the experience and be a wiser person when similar situations arise in the future.

Approach adversity like it's a new challenge waiting to be conquered.

You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. --Wayne W. Dyer

Audley is a professional speaker, facilitator and writer who is passionate about leadership development and basketball. He uses examples from the game to help illustrate leadership skills such as teamwork, dedication and patience.

He's a longtime follower of the NBA and currently is an on air personality for The NBA Breakdown and Hard Court Lessons Radio. Audley has interviewed a variety of NBA stars and leadership experts such as former Phoenix Sun and first African American mayor of Sacramento, Kevin Johnson, first Canadian NBA head coach, Jay Triano and best selling author, Steve Jamison.

Audley is presently a member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers.

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