1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too
often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we
have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way,
our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered
to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies
the existence of individuality and consequently the
existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a
unique way. No two human beings can think or act
in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way
they do because God within them prompts them that
way. Mind your own business and you will keep your
peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often
develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who
insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in
turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach
ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury
was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on
forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad
habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles.
Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in
giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise
anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you
today because you are in power, but no sooner than you
are powerless, they will forget your achievement and
will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill
yourse lf in striving for their recognition? Their
recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties
ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of
mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in
the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not.
You started a business several years ago, but you are not as
successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year
old. There are several examples like these in everyday life.
Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is
shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become
his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the
world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help
you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your
misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only
take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the
chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your
environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has
been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem
congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage.
Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments,
irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we
cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up
with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully.
Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner
strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often
tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of
carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your
limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create
more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by
expanding your external activities. Reduce your material
engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and
meditation. This will reduce thosethoughts in your mind that
make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater
peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts.
This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience
it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday,
your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining
twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily
disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually
increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that
this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this
will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce
better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in
the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something
positive, something worthwhile . Actively follow a hobby. Do
something that holds your interest. You must decide what you
value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social
work or religious work, may not always earn you more money,
but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even
when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy
reading or mental chanting of God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or
shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted
in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough
because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value
your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not
matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your
mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying
will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not
brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened
was desti ned to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt
milk?