Cultural change always lags economic change, but in China the disconnect is enormous.

Chinese parents literally were raised, educated and married in a different world than the one in which their children live. Chinese parents had little difficulty finding a spouse and buying a house. Marriage was not an 'expression of love'; it was a social family contract.

My university students have NO ONE who can advise them about the issues they face now in contemporary life regarding sex, love and career. They receive plenty of worthless advice about how to live in China in 1980 from parents and teachers.

They are stressed and confused. Their modern personal 'values' are in conflict with their filial piety.

Fortunately, their lives are economically superior to what their parents struggled to achieve. ALL Chinese college students graduate. ALL get jobs. ALL female students get married. But yes, the young men are often unable to marry while they are in their twenties. By Western standards, that is a good thing; they can skip their first divorce.