Some Chinese people are not proud of being Chinese and want to act and think like Westerners. You should not make generalizations.

I was talking specificly about Chinese teachers who are FAO's employed at public colleges and high schools in China. They do tend to have a chip on their shoulder because they are educated and have safe jobs. It suits them to be proud to be Chinese. I think they will never accept foreign people as being Chinese, even those foreigners who are fluent at Chinese. you'll always be an incomer who can't be trusted, in a profession with many dishonest Chinese people who'll never do anything extra unless they can get paid for it. But outside that group, I agree with your asessment.

There are still millions of Chinese people who would do anything to leave China.

That's certainly true, but most of them are in deadened jobs or lowpaid jobs or plain dumb people who think the grass is greener.....

Especially older unmarried single Chinese women and divorced women.
They can't ever find a husband in China, so many feel as though they have no future.

I think this is true. I also think this group has some incredibly beautiful women. But there are some honies in it who just want to be loved, and hope that a westerner will treat them better than a Chinese husband. Another attraction is that foreign teachers make good money. But a very important thing is that they're already looked down upon, used goods or past their selling date, so it won't matter if their Chinese acqaintances view them as traitors for sleeping with a foreigner. They've nothing to lose. When they marry a foreigner, the Chinese will think they're a bit loopy, while admiring them for elevating their financial status. Marrying those who want to go abroad is something I'd never contemplate. If instead a foreigner can find the right one, he'll be doing much much better than marrying a western woman, and that's said not just from the male angle of bedroom sports!