I am allergic to ETS, so I cannot go to Chinese restaurants, bars or clubs

It sounds like you are very picky. I am not really a smoker, but I don't look down on those who do.

I am amazed you found a Chinese girlfriend, when it seems you really can't stand China or Chinese people so much.

I'll be honest, the smoking bothers me, but it's not all the time or everywhere...one wonderful thing about china is the street food restaurants where you can sit outside, along with bbq smoke, car pollution, cigarette smoke is nothing...I was hacking up more crap from my lungs after one year in Shenzhen than after 14 years of smoking (I quit cigarettes every day when I was 30).

The problem is more the environment.

Polite Regards
SMGS