My main grievance with some of the other posters is that they have had bad experiences and continue to have them because they don't do things like ask prospective employers for references;

Really Beelzebub? You sound as if you are sitting right next to them and looking at how they do things. By "Ask prospective employers for references" you mean asking the potential employers to speak with former expat employees, right? Well, I can say that you are not the only person who knows what that means. So don't judge others for doing or not doing something when you don't actually know what they are doing. You take your own guess as if they were facts.

and also have a bad attitude concerning women and cannot find girlfriends and wives.

If you would like to give some real, decent advice on how to tell the good women from the bad in certain areas where you have lived for a time, then you should actually do so. Might even change the minds of some posters whom you may not share a high opinion of. But you have yet to do that on here, right? Now, anyone who posts regularly should be assumed according to you to have bad social skills if they speak out against the general incompetence, selfishness, insecurity, and blatant barbarism that many of the women in lesser developed countries or who were raised in the lesser developed countries display. The end of the fact that "they" decide that some groups of women are not of high quality and caliber due to actual, personal experience may be something that really slipped your mind, eh?