Dimwit
- 2004-09-06
I'm very happy that we got that sorted out! I've been here just over two years, and unlike many (most) foreigners, I hang out with and have all Chinese friends. I'm quite amazed at some of the comments about relationships especially remarks about having deep or intellectual discussions with your Chinese "girlfriends". Almost all the females that I know are powerful, thoughtful and thoroughly modern women. They have fine minds and strong opinions about themselves and how they want to live their lives. Some are not the greatest English speakers, nor am I fluent in Chinese (yet). It's still possible to communicate. One of the dearest women in my life speaks very little English but we often spend 24 hours together and are happy and content with each others company.
They are mentally aware and physically beautiful. I'm a very satisfied man to have so many wonderful girls to spend my time with. And they are really fun to be with!
female
- 2004-09-06
Thank you for trying to understand. You seem to be a very open minded person and your opinions are appreciated. I am truely sorry for the middle aged thing. I am tecnically middle aged too i guess, but i am not talking about myself. I have actually seen a couple young losers here just out for a good "roll in the hay" so to speak. It is disgusting when the other person gets left here to think about the mistake they made trusting a foreigner. Also bad for the teachers that follow.
Im glad you have an honest friend, that trusts & respects you here in CHina. Im sure it makes your life here easier to have her as a friend. If you have been in China a while, though, you will be aware of how respect works for Chinese people. Many times my friends/students say what they think I want to hear. It is out of respect & friendship that they do this. I guess I have been here too long because this is totally acceptable to me now. Its the right way of doing things here.
Cheers. Good Luck In China. Hope you are happy for as long as you are here.
> Absolutely agree with you about "taking advantage"...I did
> re-read your post, maybe the middle age thing sticks in my
> craw...since I am (middle age that is). Yesterday, I had this
> discussion with a 24 yo Chinese female and she agreed quite
> vehemently that age was not a barrier to any sort of relationship
> except that in Chinese eyes, the man must be older than the woman.
> Let's be friends...sorry if I let the "middle age" remarks
> become too important.
> Cheers,
Dimwit
- 2004-09-05
> I was not talking about consentual sex. I urge you to re-read my
> post.
> I think taking advantage of anyone sexually, male or female, young or
> old, is wrong.
Absolutely agree with you about "taking advantage"...I did re-read your post, maybe the middle age thing sticks in my craw...since I am (middle age that is). Yesterday, I had this discussion with a 24 yo Chinese female and she agreed quite vehemently that age was not a barrier to any sort of relationship except that in Chinese eyes, the man must be older than the woman.
Let's be friends...sorry if I let the "middle age" remarks become too important.
Cheers,
female
- 2004-09-05
I was not talking about consentual sex. I urge you to re-read my post.
I think taking advantage of anyone sexually, male or female, young or old, is wrong.
> My BIG gripe with your post is this continuing use of the
> "middle aged" label! Ther MUST be some disgusting young men
> (and women) in China as well. I'd really like to know what is in your
> mind when you use this label.
> For example, last year I met a 22yo American girl who purposely and
> with forethought seduced a young Chinese man. Was that a disgusting
> act? No, the young man quite enjoyed the experience! But if a 40 yo
> American beds a 22 yo Chinese girl and she quite enjoys it, that gets
> labeled "disgusting". No I don't think so...consentual sex
> is consentual...age doesn't matter and nationality doesn't
> matter...according to me anyhow.
Arrogant Teacher
- 2004-09-05
> obvious isn't it that Xi is more senorita than senor?...but given her
> seemingly terminal inability to grasp simple irony, and given that
> her and her maid-in-arms conspiracy-of-mercenary-men paranoias are in
> complete disregard of the undeniable facts that in life's ballet of
> romances nobody's motives are ever pure, we must - owing to the sad
> but irreversible lack of qualifications they have for the position -
> place them both firmly in the reject bucket of those applicants
> seeking to represent the "smart" women of china (be they
> native or otherwise), and perhaps also should be directing our
> sincerest sympathies in their direction , for they seem not to be
> getting any.
======================
Ahhhh, Miss Tick ... in your inimitable, didactic fashion, you have once again targeted in on the truth -- in this case, pertaining to the Seorita Xi issue. Sorry about my having originally missed the "female cue," but, now that I am cognizant of that datum, I can fathom a lot more about this character than I once did. Thank you for the knowledge. You are, indeed, my favorite of the ESL Board's contributors, whilst I shall anxiously await additional examples of your well-developed blend of veracity with just the right amount of sarcasm.
Regards
China bound
- 2004-09-04
Thanks every one who replyed to me. KT
> my dear, i do take heart from your comments regarding the feminine
> 'refreshment' to which we girls feel so occasionally yet satisfyingly
> drawn...
> ...and really my dear, i must apologise; my prose does tend to run on
> so through so many interminable knits and pearls...its the vintage of
> my schooling you see, though i never was one to shirk the job of
> finishing a lovely jumper for one of the grandkiddies in an
> uninterrupted 3 day concerto of clickety-click...
> yet, too much punctuation i find untidy too. it reminds me of the all
> the cigarette butts and whisky-stained glasses that would wend a
> sticky trail unto the snoring form of my late-but-lovely husband
> before he succumbed to that sudden and coronially inexplicable
> catatonic ague that took him from me so suddenly during the great
> Scone rodent plague of 1973.
> now where was i? silly me, i do dither so at times these days... aah
> yes...well let me say young lady, if you're a Dee, methinks then,
> that Miss Xi and Miss FFT are at most Ees or Effs.
China bound
- 2004-09-04
Thanks for your response which I consider very clearly and qualified. And I even agree on most points. KT, male
> DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
> I see that we are all assuming you are male. Sorry. Please clarify if
> are you male or female.
> Dating in China is possible if you are realistic. Don't expect to
> have a 20 yr old gf / slave. If you are looking for this, then
> everyone will see through you & you will end up being frustrated,
> unhappy, and end up in alot of trouble (maybe even not getting out
> alive or in one peice).
> I know tons of foreign men / boys here with girlfriends/wives that
> are honest, good, trustworthy people. BUT I have also seen the
> slimiest, scum of the earth, chauvanistic, losers here, that are
> nothing short of a disgrace to their fellow foreign teachers. Please,
> please, please don't be one of those.
> If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for.
> If you are one of the honest ones, good luck & I hope you find
> happiness.
Dimwit
- 2004-09-04
> There are some disgusting middle aged men in China now that are an
> embarrassment to us all. They abuse women and they hide under the
> cover of being a teacher. We have even seen postings about it here
> recently. It is sad & I wish there was a way to stop it. For the
> most part, people in China are very intuitive, but some haven't met
> enough foreigners to see the difference. This is a serious problem
> and if those types of men are reading these messages, hopefully they
> will realize that we know their types. Maybe the will not be so
> confident thinking they can get away with it. The trouble is...when
> they do actually get away with it in the beginning, it gives them
> courage to do more. The result is not pretty.
My BIG gripe with your post is this continuing use of the "middle aged" label! Ther MUST be some disgusting young men (and women) in China as well. I'd really like to know what is in your mind when you use this label.
For example, last year I met a 22yo American girl who purposely and with forethought seduced a young Chinese man. Was that a disgusting act? No, the young man quite enjoyed the experience! But if a 40 yo American beds a 22 yo Chinese girl and she quite enjoys it, that gets labeled "disgusting". No I don't think so...consentual sex is consentual...age doesn't matter and nationality doesn't matter...according to me anyhow.
female...
- 2004-09-04
> What do u mean by this??!!!!!
If you want to jump to conclusions so you can be angry & fight, PLEASE read all the messages, so you know what the conversation was about, at least.
If you are referring to the mention of Thailand & Phillipines...I was just saying that is where those types of men hang out. I was not making any judgements on the local women or people there...simply that it seems to be a hot spot for those type of men looking for wives.
AGAIN...I am not saying it is right. Im not saying I agree & think they should all go there & continue to treat women (anywhere, for that matter) badly. PLEASE REMEMBER I AM TALKING ABOUT A SPECIFIC TYPE OF PERSON (loser) HERE... NOT ALL MEN.
OH MY GOD...some of you are being very small-minded. You cannot even think for a minute that my opinion may have had another purpose. Please don't always jump to the conclusion that makes you want to fight.
There are some disgusting middle aged men in China now that are an embarrassment to us all. They abuse women and they hide under the cover of being a teacher. We have even seen postings about it here recently. It is sad & I wish there was a way to stop it. For the most part, people in China are very intuitive, but some haven't met enough foreigners to see the difference. This is a serious problem and if those types of men are reading these messages, hopefully they will realize that we know their types. Maybe the will not be so confident thinking they can get away with it. The trouble is...when they do actually get away with it in the beginning, it gives them courage to do more. The result is not pretty.
If you would kindly go back to read my original message...there were some positive points about being & dating in China. For the honest people, its totally possible to find happiness. You can live a great life here. There are amazing people all over the world.
If you are concerned about this:
> DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
My point is similar to another posting on this topic. If you come here ONLY to find a wife then you could end up frustrated & more alone. If you want to be a teacher & experience life here then you will be in for a great time. If you happen to find love or companionship in China while you are here, even better. But if you come for only one thing, you will end up hurt if you don't find it. It goes the same for lonely people anywhere. You can make your life meaningful doing lots of things.
if you are already content with yourself, its far more likely that you will find a great relationship. No one is attracted to desperation.
TO THE ORIGINAL "China Bound"...(if you are still reading this)
Dating in CHina is like dating anywhere. Its new , exciting & gives you butterflies in your stomach...just like at home. It is challenging at times to communicate the deeper feelings & have them totally understood, but if its worth it, you will find a way to make it work.
I have found that the local people find it a bit strange for a bf & gf to be far apart in age. Also, beware of the possibilities of being used as a free teacher, or a cool foreign "friend", as a status symbol. Be open minded and both of you really try to understand what the other is thinking about the relationship. If its right....then just enjoy it.
---
- 2004-09-03
What do u mean by this??!!!!!
> "If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for"
DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
> I see that we are all assuming you are male. Sorry. Please clarify if
> are you male or female.
> Dating in China is possible if you are realistic. Don't expect to
> have a 20 yr old gf / slave. If you are looking for this, then
> everyone will see through you & you will end up being frustrated,
> unhappy, and end up in alot of trouble (maybe even not getting out
> alive or in one peice).
> I know tons of foreign men / boys here with girlfriends/wives that
> are honest, good, trustworthy people. BUT I have also seen the
> slimiest, scum of the earth, chauvanistic, losers here, that are
> nothing short of a disgrace to their fellow foreign teachers. Please,
> please, please don't be one of those.
> If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for.
> If you are one of the honest ones, good luck & I hope you find
> happiness.
---
- 2004-09-03
What do u mean by this??!!!!!
> "If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for"
DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
> I see that we
female...
- 2004-09-03
Dear Dimwit:
You do sound like an honest person. Im glad you are happy here. I hope you realize that i did mention i know both types of middle aged people here that have relationships. The healthy & dangerous ones.
I never said that "ALL mid age and older people are losers" without "feelings and desires". I was trying to point out that some of us DO have meaningful relationships here.
The bottom line is, if you do have a good heart, (most) people here will see that, and age, looks, size, or skin color won't matter for long.
The same goes for the losers out there...people will see you for what you are, too. I have found the same thing here about age barriers, or lack thereof, to be exact.
BTW...I am no where near a "youngster", as you say. (Although there are times I wish i were. ha ha ha)
> Not only George but the other "youngsters" seem to have the
> erroneous idea that people (men or women) who are over 40 are not
> just as interested in having "meaningful relationships" as
> you who are young. One of the nice things about China as I stated in
> my original post is that there doesn't seem to be such age
> discrimination here. Let me assure you that all mid age and older
> people are NOT losers and we do have feelings and desires. The
> Chinese women/girls that I spend my time with value me as a person
> and don't look at my age as any sort of barrier to whatever
> relationship we have.
> I like being in China and am here because I choose to be, not because
> I am a "loser" and am escaping from somewhere else!
female...
- 2004-09-03
> Shame on you madam. Filipinas are NOT sl#ts. APOLOGIZE
Are you saying that Thai women are???
Please accept my apology, (and not just because you commanded me to do so) if it seemed I was implying anything about the women in Thailand or the Phillipines. I was only stating thats where alot of those creepy losers go & end up treating women there very badly. Its just as disgusting, but from what I have seen on TV & heard, it is a common place for them to settle. (Poor women there.) AGAIN...I was not commenting on the local people, just that perhaps the losers would feel more comfortable amongst others of their sort. It is a well known fact that those types commonly hang out Thailand & Phillipines.
female...
- 2004-09-03
You are right. I didn't realize someone would take offence to that. Actually that wasnt what I was saying.
What do you mean by "sending over" ?
> female foreign teacher...
> You probably didn't realize what were you saying about Thai and
> Philippine women. The mid-aged losers you are sending over have not a
> chance in hell here.
> Cheers.
> George
Dimwit
- 2004-09-03
Not only George but the other "youngsters" seem to have the erroneous idea that people (men or women) who are over 40 are not just as interested in having "meaningful relationships" as you who are young. One of the nice things about China as I stated in my original post is that there doesn't seem to be such age discrimination here. Let me assure you that all mid age and older people are NOT losers and we do have feelings and desires. The Chinese women/girls that I spend my time with value me as a person and don't look at my age as any sort of barrier to whatever relationship we have.
I like being in China and am here because I choose to be, not because I am a "loser" and am escaping from somewhere else!
me
- 2004-09-03
> Which mean these guys don't have this. Something is missing within
> their personality, that is why they are coming to China. Chinese
> women beside being "quite beautiful with fantastic figures and
> lovely skin" as you said, are also smart and can smell a loser
> miles away. Guys realize you are not fooling nobody but yourself.
> btw, by using a name like "Dimwit" you sound like someone
> with little self esteem.
> XI
XI, do you realize what you are saying? You are saying that only losers would go to China. Do you realize what that says about your opinion of China? My wife and I have been happily married for over a year now and here is what I realized - we all have one person in this world that we are meant for and who is meant for us. It was certainly worth going to China for me to find her - though that is not why I went.
George
- 2004-09-03
> DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
> I see that we are all assuming you are male. Sorry. Please clarify if
> are you male or female.
> Dating in China is possible if you are realistic. Don't expect to
> have a 20 yr old gf / slave. If you are looking for this, then
> everyone will see through you & you will end up being frustrated,
> unhappy, and end up in alot of trouble (maybe even not getting out
> alive or in one peice).
> I know tons of foreign men / boys here with girlfriends/wives that
> are honest, good, trustworthy people. BUT I have also seen the
> slimiest, scum of the earth, chauvanistic, losers here, that are
> nothing short of a disgrace to their fellow foreign teachers. Please,
> please, please don't be one of those.
> If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for.
> If you are one of the honest ones, good luck & I hope you find
> happiness.
female foreign teacher...
You probably didn't realize what were you saying about Thai and Philippine women. The mid-aged losers you are sending over have not a chance in hell here.
Cheers.
George
Lex
- 2004-09-03
> If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines
> are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are
> looking for.
Shame on you madam. Filipinas are NOT sl#ts. APOLOGIZE
Miss Tick
- 2004-09-02
my dear, i do take heart from your comments regarding the feminine 'refreshment' to which we girls feel so occasionally yet satisfyingly drawn...
...and really my dear, i must apologise; my prose does tend to run on so through so many interminable knits and pearls...its the vintage of my schooling you see, though i never was one to shirk the job of finishing a lovely jumper for one of the grandkiddies in an uninterrupted 3 day concerto of clickety-click...
yet, too much punctuation i find untidy too. it reminds me of the all the cigarette butts and whisky-stained glasses that would wend a sticky trail unto the snoring form of my late-but-lovely husband before he succumbed to that sudden and coronially inexplicable catatonic ague that took him from me so suddenly during the great Scone rodent plague of 1973.
now where was i? silly me, i do dither so at times these days... aah yes...well let me say young lady, if you're a Dee, methinks then, that Miss Xi and Miss FFT are at most Ees or Effs.
dee
- 2004-09-02
I am very interested in knowing what you have just said. Can you please say it again? Using more then one or two run on sentences would be appreciated.
(I hope you don't take offence to this request. Its just really hard to understand.)
I do really want to hear your opinion. There are mostly men on these chat boards & its nice to hear a woman.
> obvious isn't it that Xi is more senorita than senor?...but given her
> seemingly terminal inability to grasp simple irony, and given that
> her and her maid-in-arms conspiracy-of-mercenary-men paranoias are in
> complete disregard of the undeniable facts that in life's ballet of
> romances nobody's motives are ever pure, we must - owing to the sad
> but irreversible lack of qualifications they have for the position -
> place them both firmly in the reject bucket of those applicants
> seeking to represent the "smart" women of china (be they
> native or otherwise), and perhaps also should be directing our
> sincerest sympathies in their direction , for they seem not to be
> getting any.
Miss Tick
- 2004-09-02
obvious isn't it that Xi is more senorita than senor?...but given her seemingly terminal inability to grasp simple irony, and given that her and her maid-in-arms conspiracy-of-mercenary-men paranoias are in complete disregard of the undeniable facts that in life's ballet of romances nobody's motives are ever pure, we must - owing to the sad but irreversible lack of qualifications they have for the position - place them both firmly in the reject bucket of those applicants seeking to represent the "smart" women of china (be they native or otherwise), and perhaps also should be directing our sincerest sympathies in their direction , for they seem not to be getting any.
female foreign teacher...
- 2004-09-02
DONT COME TO CHINA WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF FINDING A WIFE.
I see that we are all assuming you are male. Sorry. Please clarify if are you male or female.
Dating in China is possible if you are realistic. Don't expect to have a 20 yr old gf / slave. If you are looking for this, then everyone will see through you & you will end up being frustrated, unhappy, and end up in alot of trouble (maybe even not getting out alive or in one peice).
I know tons of foreign men / boys here with girlfriends/wives that are honest, good, trustworthy people. BUT I have also seen the slimiest, scum of the earth, chauvanistic, losers here, that are nothing short of a disgrace to their fellow foreign teachers. Please, please, please don't be one of those.
If you are one of the losers, I hear Thailand & the Phillipines are more your style. And more possible you'll find what you are looking for.
If you are one of the honest ones, good luck & I hope you find happiness.
> 55y going to China. Do you have any tips?
> Thank you.
foreign female teacher
- 2004-09-02
Although I don't particularly like your attitude to foreigners in general, (assuming we are all one & the same)...
...I have to agree that the middle aged men who admittedly come to China looking for a wife/girlfriend should NOT be encouraged to come here under the disguise of a teacher. I have seen the worst possible of these & it was not pretty for any of us, foreigners OR local girls. I am personally ashamed to call myself Canadian in front of the students that knew this man.
TRUE, about how smart most Chinese girls are in predicting what kind of man you are. Sadly though, there are still a few girls here that are looking for an easy ticket to another country.
Perhaps not all these middle aged men coming here expect to find an 18-20yr old "slave" to satisfy all their needs. (Though I must say I hope those that do, die & rot in hell) Maybe some are true. If you are truely a good guy, looking for a life partner, please be realistic & honest with yourself & the women you meet.
PS...the advice about not dating students or fellow teachers is GREAT. The part about it ending at any time...also a fact. Don't exploit the overly trusting young females you meet. Many of them are really not ready & totally unaware of what you are thinking.
> Which mean these guys don't have this. Something is missing within
> their personality, that is why they are coming to China. Chinese
> women beside being "quite beautiful with fantastic figures and
> lovely skin" as you said, are also smart and can smell a loser
> miles away. Guys realize you are not fooling nobody but yourself.
> btw, by using a name like "Dimwit" you sound like someone
> with little self esteem.
> XI
Arrogant Teacher
- 2004-09-02
by using a name like "Dimwit" you sound like someone
> with little self esteem.
> XI
==================================================
Dear Seor Xi ...
So you don't like the name "DIMWIT," huh? So, take a gander at
MY handle and make a remark or two!!!
BOY! you are one CRITICAL @!%#&*!
xi
- 2004-09-02
>If you have a good attitude you will have all the female company you can handle.
Which mean these guys don't have this. Something is missing within their personality, that is why they are coming to China. Chinese women beside being "quite beautiful with fantastic figures and lovely skin" as you said, are also smart and can smell a loser miles away. Guys realize you are not fooling nobody but yourself.
btw, by using a name like "Dimwit" you sound like someone with little self esteem.
XI
Dimwit
- 2004-09-02
> I am 50 years old and I went to China when I was 46. I have lived
> there most of the past four years. My wife, who is Chinese , and I
> are now living in Seoul. I met her in China two years ago. We got
> married last year. I didn't go there to get married, but I am happy
> the way it worked out. :)
Chinese women/girls are terrific! They don't have the hang-up's and the me first attitude of many western women. They are in my eyes quite beautiful with fantastic figures and lovely skin. You will find them easy to meet (sorry Moon) and interesting as people. If you have a good attitude you will have all the female company you can handle.
Your age is no barrier to finding companionship and even a lover.
Ellis E. Seamone
- 2004-09-01
> ======================================================
> .....?!?!"Follow this ORDER"!?!?.....
> ACH SO, HERR KOMMANDANT! I FEEL ENDEAVOR TO FULFEEL ALL OF TSE OWDORS
> ZAT YOU FEEL ISSUE! NEVER FIL I VONCE VAVER FROM MEIN TASHK IN TZE
> PRC ... NEVER SHALL I TRANSCEND YOUR IMAGE OFF TZE "PERFEKT
> (AUSSLANDER) FOREIGNER!" TSIS I SHWEAR TO YOU, MEIN FHRER!
> ZIEG HEIL!
> (Man, what *u#k@!g CHUTZPAH!)
==========================================================
O.K., O.K., Comrade Xi ... I KNEW you were merely giving an "order of steps" the dude had to perform while in China, and NOT a "military-like order" to be obeyed! Just thought I'd have a little fun. Sorry for any
offense on THIS score.
Love,
Ellis
Ellis E. Seamone
- 2004-08-31
> Worry first about finding a job-school you feel comfortable. Do a
> good job as a teacher, and last: entertainments (dating. etc..).
> Follow this order and you will succeed in China.
> XI
======================================================
.....?!?!"Follow this ORDER"!?!?.....
ACH SO, HERR KOMMANDANT! I FEEL ENDEAVOR TO FULFEEL ALL OF TSE OWDORS
ZAT YOU FEEL ISSUE! NEVER FIL I VONCE VAVER FROM MEIN TASHK IN TZE
PRC ... NEVER SHALL I TRANSCEND YOUR IMAGE OFF TZE "PERFEKT (AUSSLANDER) FOREIGNER!" TSIS I SHWEAR TO YOU, MEIN FHRER!
ZIEG HEIL!
(Man, what *u#k@!g CHUTZPAH!)
me
- 2004-08-31
> Worry first about finding a job-school you feel comfortable. Do a
> good job as a teacher, and last: entertainments (dating. etc..).
> Follow this order and you will succeed in China.
> XI
That's good advice, Xi, but he was seeking dating advice, wasn't he? :)
xi
- 2004-08-31
> 55y going to China. Do you have any tips?
> Thank you.
Worry first about finding a job-school you feel comfortable. Do a good job as a teacher, and last: entertainments (dating. etc..). Follow this order and you will succeed in China.
XI
me
- 2004-08-31
> China bound, here's a tip for you: the probability of finding a
> young/good looking suitable chinese girlfriend be practically
> impossible. Save your money and your sanity, too many drunks/insane
> teachers around. Enjoy any relation while it lasts, but understand
> that it could end at any time.
moon, I did the impossible :)
Moon
- 2004-08-31
China bound, here's a tip for you: the probability of finding a young/good looking suitable chinese girlfriend be practically impossible. Save your money and your sanity, too many drunks/insane teachers around. Enjoy any relation while it lasts, but understand that it could end at any time.
me
- 2004-08-31
> don't date your students, try not to date your colleagues (if you are
> a teacher). don't spend you hard earned money dating, if she likes
> you, she'll help you save money (an old Chinese tradition). don't
> promise after one day you know her, "I'll take you with me home,
> America/Canada". Keep your TWO feets on the ground; Just a
> temporary FANTASY.
> Yin
I am 50 years old and I went to China when I was 46. I have lived there most of the past four years. My wife, who is Chinese , and I are now living in Seoul. I met her in China two years ago. We got married last year. I didn't go there to get married, but I am happy the way it worked out. :)
Yin
- 2004-08-31
> 55y going to China. Do you have any tips?
> Thank you.
don't date your students, try not to date your colleagues (if you are a teacher). don't spend you hard earned money dating, if she likes you, she'll help you save money (an old Chinese tradition). don't promise after one day you know her, "I'll take you with me home, America/Canada". Keep your TWO feets on the ground; Just a temporary FANTASY.
Yin