I think you will understand when I protect my privacy in telling you that I had been married before, raised our children with my wife and had a damn good time when I was with her - until she died. I have decided not to re-marry, and the rest is only my problem and of no concern to other people. I still have a good life and am very active, though.

You're are quite right, Turnoi, what kind or persuasion of relationships you have, it's a matter for you whether or not to open them up for forum discussion. I think though the Sewage Worker believes that a problem shared is a problem halved and maybe a problem solved. Glad to know you keep active- have a gay weekend.