Dragonized
- 2013-11-20
Yeah, your post really put the reality of China out there for all to see: If you do decide to go, know that the culture of shamelessness and the values of undersexed western men have taken a foundation of sorts there. This will affect how Chinese folks judge westerners, so don't be surprised if you get taken for granted.
Also, the Chinese girls are catching on to the fact that westerners may not always be at the top of their food chains back home. This while prejudiced has actually been a staple of judging expats since...well since expats first started coming to China in large droves. Even a decade back if you were of Asian heritage you were the first ones to be "outed" as not being worth anything due to your face in a variety of professions. Now, I have seen and heard more and more cases of the "hump and dump" strategy employed by some chinese girls who are "serial laowai daters". Case in point I know someone who recently got out of the military and decided to go on an adventure in Asia. He is blond haired, blue eyed, and has a chiseled body aka the perfect prototype for attracting girls in many places. Well he chose china, and he met a local chinese girl with a pretty face and a hot body within the first two months. He decided to impress her by taking her to Hong Kong and spending 1000 + yuan a night in some lavish hotel. He blows through savings that he probably put his life on the line for. A few weeks later he texts me and I ask him how his relationship is going. He tells me they broke up because he finds out she's "crazy". A good possibility is that she saw that he had no more money to spend on her so she turned on her psychopathic side to drive him away, a side she hid all along.
Westerners really need to be careful about dating and marrying someone who grew up in a place like China with an income level that is much lower than whatever country they came from. I have mentioned this story before but I feel that it is worth mentioning again: There was a case of a young Australian man who fell in love and married a Chinese girl, and after he brought her back to Australia she ended up divorcing him exactly 3 years after he had brought her there.
Because according to the law in Australia that is when a foreign spouse of an Australian Citizen can apply and obtain their own Australian Citizenship! She left him heartbroken according to what was told to me. This by the way was said by local Australian Girl I had the chance of meeting when I was working in another country. The point is that there are some people who will do anything to leave the place where they are at, and they will not care how many toes they have to step on to do so. These are also the types of people I avoid associating with when I am back home (you can be sure the USA has the most of these than anywhere else) due to their low level of character.
I am sure Silverboy who is also from Australia has seen and heard plenty of things like this when he was back home.
John O'Shei
- 2013-11-20
The laowai with Chinese wives are always the most arrogant know-all mother...ker foreigners in China. Even though they may have been in China for only a few months and can't speak any Chinese they know everything.
Yep, right on the money with that one. They always have a massive inferiority complex because they can't get any real friends back home. China is their "key" to a world of being admired for skills they do not possess and adored for charisma that they don't have. I can speak from being in the presence of other people who actually grew up in a bi-cultural setting from my times in China that it would not matter if there was another expat who was bilingual, experienced in knowing the personal mindsets of the locals, and/or knew what things were under the surface. Fact is, they could not change the minds of these "experts" who's sole claim to knowing China was the fact that there was finally a hole for them to plug Mr. Winkie into, if you know what I mean.Expats who blow the trumpet of an underdeveloped, uneducated, and unintelligent paradigm usually show everyone how masculine, well cultured, and smart they are....wait what am I saying they are NOT! Hahaha.
You know, I may have even been slightly guilty of this kind of shit behaviour in the past, as when I first arrived in China. I admittedly found a Chinese girlfriend that I thought was well out of my league at the time, learned to speak a little Chinese, let it all get to my head a bit too much.
I think I can thank another girl that I ended up dating, that was ridiculously straight forward, honest and even bad tempered, rather than simply massaging my cock like other girls, because she refused to massage something else... My ego. She pointed out that my Chinese was actually really shit, I actually knew very little about Chinese people etc. At the time, I was shocked and offended, but I eventually came to understand her. We are just friends these days, but looking back I feel grateful for the fact that she would tell me the stuff, that other Chinese people would be too polite or shy to tell me.
I think it might just be a phase that some fresh off the boat foreigners go through, the novelty eventually wears off, or they grow up and become more modest or whatever. Also relating to that article I recently posted, your personal requirements from women may also change.
One experience I can refer to, is that of my Canadian boss saying "one day, you might get an Asian wife, like me" and deep inside, I instantly lost countless amounts of respect that I previously had for him because he viewed Asian women (or just women in general) as exotic trophies that can somehow be won and shown off.
I wouldn't say it is just a thing that relates to women, of course (but that twat that called Silverboy racist, they got me started, lol).
Another example, is that of my friend that attended the intro lesson at the university that he teaches at, there was a foreigner who had taught for 3 years giving a really shit ppt presentation to the new foreign teachers, with all the place names spelt incorrectly, etc. My mate stood up and told him "Look mate, I've already been in _________ over a year, and can tell straight away that you know f**k all, half of those places that you mentioned are shit and everybody knows of way cooler places than that". His facial expression was absolutely priceless apparently.
Dragonized
- 2013-11-20
The laowai with Chinese wives are always the most arrogant know-all mother...ker foreigners in China. Even though they may have been in China for only a few months and can't speak any Chinese they know everything.
Yep, right on the money with that one. They always have a massive inferiority complex because they can't get any real friends back home. China is their "key" to a world of being admired for skills they do not possess and adored for charisma that they don't have. I can speak from being in the presence of other people who actually grew up in a bi-cultural setting from my times in China that it would not matter if there was another expat who was bilingual, experienced in knowing the personal mindsets of the locals, and/or knew what things were under the surface. Fact is, they could not change the minds of these "experts" who's sole claim to knowing China was the fact that there was finally a hole for them to plug Mr. Winkie into, if you know what I mean.
Expats who blow the trumpet of an underdeveloped, uneducated, and unintelligent paradigm usually show everyone how masculine, well cultured, and smart they are....wait what am I saying they are NOT! Hahaha.