thanks for your input. I guess it just hits me when I hear this kind of stuff, that racism is not just an old fashioned black-white thing. I mean I know it does exist, of course. But, in my family & community, no one would ever think these crazy things. In fact we always thought it would be the coolest if we got married to someone with another cultural background so we could each learn new things. I never really totally got it, that this way of thinking is not old fashioned.

I can see from generation-to generation here in China, it has changed. Many younger people are more easily able to accept my realtionship here.

I hope it continues to change, for the better of all of us, local & foreign living in China.

About how the Chinese people that are on this forum probably wont get involoved in this conversation...Someone told me of a chinese saying that says how if you say some thing 3 times, it makes it true. (sorry, I know not as poetic as the real translation should be.) I gather that also means if you dont talk about something...is makes it not true.

Also, totally agree with your final comment:
> i guess the important thing is how each other feels for one another.

That is it really. If we make it together or not is completely dependant on this fact.

> well...i'm very glad to hear that some of the relationships DO indeed
> work out with few problems.

> ...although my real concern is the orientation of most of the said
> problems faced in such international relationships.

> it's the result of a serious lack of diversity in some societies,
> faced with interaction with those from societies with a little more
> diversity in their hearts and minds.

> i'm all for cultural, ethnic diversity and mixed relationships.
> but i know in this world, many have harder lined concepts of life.

> ...including the USA...a very hard lined nation to say the less.

> you know i'm mixed race myself and i do know that people in the asian
> countries noted, do share these strange prejudice's that children and
> adults of such backgrounds are somehow lesser, unless they prove
> themselves otherwise.

> so they believe that a mixed child will suffer in society.
> they also fear chilldren of single parent homes will be targets of
> ridicule.

> not to get too personal on a forum, but my mixed ethnicity leans
> towards the african-american-caucasian-native-american side.

> ...a very known fact in the american social history is this kind of
> ethnic mixure.
> most americans if broad minded and truthful, clearly understand this
> mixture, due to the historical development of the USA.

> as noted:

> what people in asia don't realize is just how "real" this
> culture of american ethnic diversity really is.
> their tunnel vision of american people only being blonde haired blue
> eyed people is so obvious.

> more times than few, they really fail to realize "who" the
> real americans are.
> we are already branded with being less educated and poor, while other
> mentioned are rich and well educated.

> if most caucasian people in asian countries are viewed in a better
> light, then maybe the society has a little more relaxed acceptance
> about such foreigners dating the locals.

> i'm not sure.
> but if the people already have some negative stereotypes about some
> people, who they only learned this by hear-say, then their opinions
> are almost set in stone.

> ...to make this long story short.

> i guess the important thing is how each other feels for one another.