Perhaps turnoi that is where some of your enmity towards him comes from.

In his older years he has managed to marry a younger wife who cares for him, whereas you have not.

Shabby? I'd imagine India to be much worse....and it is not as if he is living there permanently, I suspect his wife likes the clean air of the UK, and this is just a "flying visit" so to speak. It's not as if he has upped sticks to beijing or rural north china now is it? Let's get our heads together shall we.