That's one reason to get out as things get worse and blame gets collectively passed onto foreigners to save face.

The more you begin to understand Chinese; the more you'll realise that as a Western person, you won't truly fit in; as they do not wish for you to fit in, by default. When you do find a friend; you're usually just a novelty outsider, for positive or negative treated differently. You may even be a genuine friend to them but you're not in THAT kind of circle, you exist outside it in a completely different optional kind of circle.

What's worse, this doesn't change even when you marry a Chinese women. You're still tagging along as a guest as far as those 'circles' are concerned.