You see, I went to a boarding school and witnessed boys getting involved emotionally. However
i met such boys later on in life and they had put that all behind them-married with
children.

Taffy, have you ever heard the phrase 'discovering your own sexuality'? When we are growing up, the human body goes through tremendous changes roughly every 7 years or so. By the time a person reaches puberty, their hormones are all over the place. Therefore it's small wonder that both male and females begin to question who and what they are. Look at the way Chinese boys behave in school, sitting on each others knee, grabbing each others ass, holding hands etc. If they behaved like that in a Western school they would almost certainly be referred to as 'gay'.