In some places in China you just have to accept that you can only stay in a four star or five star hotel. Yes, it's "unfair", it is a pain, discrimination, it is a nuisance to have to stay at a place that maybe you can afford but feel you are wasting money staying there. The systems they have there are shit, but us laowai can't do anything about it.

As for a taxi service, if the service is crap or the people are rude just don't use them again. Whenever I had bad service in China or anywhere in Asia I just never went back to that place.

I just wonder if you feel you should or will receive special treatment because you have a Chinese wife? If you have been in China for a long time you know it does not work like that.

You are a foreigner, Chinese wife or not, and regardless of your visa status. Same in any other other Asian country. You might be considered a local, but you are never Chinese, Thai, Korean, Japanese, whatever.

I will say that although I am mostly anti-Chinese I've never had bad service at any upmarket Chinese hotel. The staff in fact went out of their way to helpful. The same with most taxi drivers.