If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it.

As for advice that goes counter to your self perception, perhaps it's an indication that it's time for a little introspection. Advice that only strokes your ego will make you feel better for awhile, but in the long run has no real value. What does have value is the recognition that self improvement is a life long journey that begins with small steps forward.

"To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly."
Henry Bergson