Well, all what you said are well said and fully understood and respected...We all have different experiences in life....good and bad....and you're right, we can learn a lot from our experience and from that, we will grow and can choose which direction we want to head to.....It doesn't matter where I came from...but, I'm also a foreigner here in China and just concerned....As I can see it here, I guess, my whole family and I were just raised differently, of which decency, good values,and honesty are always on the top regardless of what kind of people surround us...and these obvious wrong doings of others especially the foreign educators in CHina are just bad to think and see, but since most people seem accepting it and even living with it, well, ,we have nothing to do with that...we can freely choose which line we want to follow .....and for me..for us...maybe only for us..we won't ever budge an inch to conform for this immorality..I may still respect them as a person,but not the action!!!....Okey ,thanks for all the readers of my post and those who shared their ideas....( Living morally upright is still the best!!!...)