I think she has confided in her best friend, also a divorcee. I suspect that person doesn't like foreigners at all and has put her off seeing me ever again. I'm having sleepless nights thinking about a way to continue the relationship, but I hestitate to mention anything about it to my Chinese colleague who had initally introduced us! Any advice would be welcome!

It could be what many dub: has a chinese BF, just wanted a change from the little pickle and a feel of a sword.

Don't take it personally mate. Unlike us laowais, they don't really have a conscience or heart when it comes to letting go. It's as if their insides are made of cold mercury....