Your description of these hapless fellows show that they in fact do possess a way of approaching life that the rest of us cannot even begin to imagine! So it basically for them means that IF YOU FAIL AT REALLY UNDERSTANDING SOMEBODY IT IS YOUR MODUS OPERANDI TO FIND SOMEONE WHO YOU DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND AND BY BEING WITH THEM YOU WILL NEVER NEED ANY MORE UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT PEOPLE REALLY ARE ABOUT .

Shrinks would have a ball if they ever came to china and studied the expat population. I guess we're all learning about the dire consquences of not nursing a baby properly, they grow up like this!