The situation is exacerbated by the substantial imbalance between Chinese people of marriage age, which has given girls and women the upper hand when choosing their husbands. The womenfolk know this and expect more materialistically than they deserve from a male suitor. If he is a foreigner, they expect to be too highly compensated financially for turning themselves against Chinese traditions by daring to marry him. Many Chinese think that China is only for the Chinese, and that mindset is entrenched. It will take generations before that will change.