Unless you are a real part of the the Confucian social network of coordinate relationships...

Agreed Turnoi. This has been discussed on these boards over and over, but it doesn't make this any less relevant. As outsiders, we are not and will never be, subject to the confucian code of conduct and morality. In some ways this is refreshing, as it gives us carte blanche to do as we please. In others, it is bad as we will be cheated and lied to and treated with disdain.

Sun Tzu-Art of war, should be mandatory reading for all new foreigners to China.

Regards and red vinos on,
SMGS