It would seem that this forum is often inundated with glaring generalities. I'm not sure if that's always a bad thing in that it at least suggests that there is a process going on wherein one is at least attempting to reach an understanding; nevertheless, certain kinds of generalities seem to reduce the possibility of finding a bottom line from which further communication can be elicited. That is, many people, myself included, are often inclined to avoid a particular subject if those involved in communicating about that subject cannot see sweeping generalities as only a starting point.

After spending seven years in China, my perceptions are still limited. However, regarding the matter of love and marriage, I would think that any right minded individual could not possibly believe that approximately 700 million Chinese women are incapable of true love. Moreover, I'm glad I have not become so jaded as to believe what has been written here by many people.

I applaud such contributors as Silverboy who has not given up on his search for a good wife in China, but I cannot give credence to the rest of you who would rather wallow in their own self pity at having been taken advantage of in the past. Furthermore, it is my belief that the overwhelming amount of laowei who take advantage of young Chinese women - even their students - is pretty despicable also. If you're a teacher in China, sooner or later you'll hear from one or more colleagues about their sexual conquests as if they have left their moral standards on the doorsteps of their homes in their native countries.

So balance it out, if you will. Or better yet examine your own motivations for communicating in generalities that serve no real purpose other than allowing you to complain. And yes, I'm well aware that if I don't want to read such clap trap, I can opt not to follow the forum here. But I do enjoy this site and would hope that the contributors here would communicate in a way that confirms their erudition if not their education.

And, by the way, I did find love in China. Yeah, I got taken a few times (watch out for those Harbin girls), but finally I found a sweet village woman possessed of infinite kindness and incredible grace. Okay, maybe she's not the most worldly person around (thankfully), but maybe that's the answer for those of you who are hung up on finding that perfect woman in the big cities. So just for fun I'll offer up my own glaring generality: Cities are the breeding ground for corruption and connivance.