Firstly young Chinese men and women are not as naive and inexperienced as they might first appear. An increasing number of them are sexually active in middle and high school. I can give you an example of a situation at a local high school near me where two students were found doing it in a teachers office. The teachers then searched the bags of several of their classmates mates and found them to be carrying condoms with them to school.

You'd also be wrong to believe that the girl in question doesn't know exactly what she is doing. It seems strange that earlier in the week you wrote about the power plays that occur between fts and Chinese management yet you seem unwilling to see the way this often works between Chinese women and men (both foreign & local). Who is say that the girl isn't looking for a visa, a credit card or just wants to experiment with a foreigner.

No you're right, foreign teachers aren't hired to bang as many students as possible. In this case though it hardly seems that the op is doing that. Instead he's waited until he's sure he likes the girl and she likes him and is then asking advice on the situation. Given that he's already worked at the university a year before the situation has arisen it tends to weaken your arguement that he is simply shooting fish in a barrel or that he has no self control.

I fail to see anywhere in your argument what it is about this particular situation that is immoral. Granted we all have different standards by which we live by but I can't personally see anything immoral with a situation where a man likes a woman and that feeling is reciprocated!

To quote Karl Kraus "Christian morality prefers remorse to precede lust, and then lust not to follow". As Kraus was suggesting it hardly seems a realistic expectation to live like this .............