Start with:

ni hao ma, means how are you? and see her reaction. If you make a connection then:

1- Approach with your eyes and ears first. Listen to her as much as possible.

2- Do no show at the beginning to much Yellow fever.

3- Chinese women love foreigners, (foreigner means no Asians).

4- Talk and make her speak as much as she wants, your English language is precious to her and will make her feel different. Let her finish anything she has to say without interrupting or correcting her English.

Also at the beginning

5- Avoid correcting her English, unless she ask you.

6- Avoid talking about past bad experience with other Chinese women or any other women. Tell her the TRUTH if she ask you anything - Avoid lies and exaggerations: Best is to stay quiet or change the conversation if possible.

7- Avoid politics, religion conversations or talking of how much better are things where you came from.

8- Avoid complaining about the low quality of any products or how bad their education system, medical, air, transport are. Do not criticize anything or anyone in China.

9- DO NOT become her English Teacher, Therapist, Psychologist or Counselor. It means, Do not try to fix her life or show her the right path/a new way. And worse, DO NOT become her clown, trying to make her laugh with bad/any jokes.

10- STOP trying to sell yourself too hard: Complementing her to much is irrelevant to achieve your short-romance goal - instead go with the flow, go with the water - LET her decide what to do next.

11- DO NOT give her to much information about you, unless she ask you more than once. Also, don't ask to much about her, unless she volunteers to give you any information.

12- Ask her if she has boyfriend? If she say yes, move on quickly to the next one.

13- Ask her age. If she ask you your age, reply something like: How old do you think I look and laugh... without giving a number, unless she insist. Asking her age is an atmosphere-changer and it shows that you are possible interested on her and that you are not afraid to say to her what you want, when you want.

14- Avoid talking too much about your past and present achievements, nobody cares.

15- Always pay and smile. Treat and Tip well Chinese staff.

16- Avoid talking broken Chinese, unless you are planning to pay her for tutoring classes. Avoid Chinese, English is fine. At the beginning, avoid using hard to understand English words, use the easiest and simplest English words known you can or better let her do the talk. Last thing you want is to give her a headache trying to add unused English words to her mind, a headache will be associated to you and you will appear on her mind confusing and difficult. Also your knowledge of Chinese history and customs are irrelevant at this point.

17- put some mint chewing gum in your mouth when approaching any lady anywhere and offer her some too. And use perfume but don't over apply. Smell good for a lasting First Impression! - Smell is key to being attractive to women.

18 - If the initial connection was good and you will see her again, never leave first, wait......... until she leaves. Hopefully you will see her again soon.

and last for now,

19 - DO NOT rush, you have NO control over her. Instead focus your energy in meeting other women while you wait.

Good luck and hopefully some of this will get you short/long romances and keep you happy in the Great China and anywhere you go.

Don Juan

Post disclaimer: Author Don Juan wrote this post for http://www.eslteachersboard.com/.
This post is for Western men living abroad in develop countries where the odds of finding women are much higher. For Western men still living in the West, some of the points above may apply and some may not. Don Juan will make a guide and post it here for men living anywhere including Western countries. It will be greatley appreciated if readers of Don Juan post also share their knowledge in this matter and make corrections to Don Juan post.