It's girls night out and you and your best friend are ready for a night of magic and fun. A night of laughter, of great conversations and all the usual stuff that girls do when they enjoy each others company and friendship.

What you're not looking forward to - is your friend's constant negative interpretation of herself and her life. Her self esteem was so low it had gone through the floor and was buried somewhere in the deep dark bottomless pit.

It was not always like this -- your friend was once the life of the party. She was always happy and she loved her life. This all changed when her boyfriend of three years, ended their relationship rather abruptly.

Your friend became insecure -- with no self esteem or confidence -- a shadow of her former self. You wish you could do something to bring her back from that abyss of deep despair -- to what she once was -- that happy, self assured and confident woman who has been your friend for so many years.

No one can give anyone self esteem or self confidence. However, what you can do is to become a beacon, that guiding light who guides her friend to reconnect to her essence and fall in love with herself again.

Be patient!

Your friend's lack of confidence or low self esteem is not a chronic attitude, so hang in there with her. Like most experiences, this, too, will pass. Listen to her conversation and allow her to vent.

Here are a few simple games that will up lift your friends spirit and begin to pull her back from that deep abyss of no self esteem and lack of confidence.

The esteem game:

This is simple and fun, grab a couple of note books and encourage your friend to write all the things she admires about you, why you are important to her and what she values most about your friendship. And you Should do the same for her. When you are both finish, read them to each other. You are going to have some AHA moments. You both will laugh or even cry but it will help your friend to get out of her own head.

The memory game:

This is another fun and simple game you can do with your friend. Have your friend write down the most memorable times from your friendship and you do the same. when you are done, compare them and have a fun conversation about what is the same and what is not.

The affirming game:

Write a list of the things you believe your friend should affirm and have her do the same for you. Put them aside without showing them to each other. Next, each of you should write down the things you want to affirm in your life. When you're done, compare both lists and see how aware you are of each others needs and wants.

101 things:

Encourage your friend to write down 101 things she likes about herself and you do the same for you. When you are both finished, talk about them in detail.

You don't have to have a lack of confdence or low self esteem issue to enjoy these games. They are a lot of fun. Relax and enjoy.

Stay confident and be empowered.

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By Adalia John Cht. Confidence and empowerment coach and the Mindset Mastery Series.