None of us want to feel foolish or embarrassed. Being able to blend in to any environment is both a wonderful tool for both social and business success, while also protecting us from uncomfortable or undesired social moments.

One of the most useful tools in all situations is the ability to LISTEN.

Listening is a super powerful ability for it give's you information upon which you can act upon. It enables you to be both armed and prepared for the next moment. When you listen you are gaining information about the environment, about your fellow colleagues and friends. And as the old adage goes... "Information is power".

Of course when I say Listening I am referring to not just "what" is being said but the how it is being said, the body language and the tone used to convey the information. Observing how people communicate is a wonderful opportunity to see who likes each other, who tolerates each other, and who wants attention from who. Taking the time to observe a new environment enables you to build an understanding of those in that environment. Now you don't want to be a "gawky stalker" by acting like a reporter or psycho fan, you want to be very casual and unobtrusive with all your observing.

Here are some quick tips.

* Manners are always welcomed. Smile, say "Thank you" and "Please".

* Pay attention when someone is talking to you and let them finish their thought or sentence before you give your opinion. Allowing someone to say what they think or want, creates a bond with you being the listener. Even if you disagree, allowing them to finish before you reply creates respect. If you can use some of their own words or phrasing in your response, either for or against their idea shows you were listening and also creates a sense of understanding. (A great fun exercise to build this ability is the Improv exercise "So What You Are Saying")

* Quietly laughing, smiling and nodding when someone is retelling an antidote or situation is another way to "be a part of the group" and create bonding emotions.

* Being focused and aware of how your actions and comments are being received and observed by others who are listening to you and observing you. This is also a part of the "Listening to your environment" skill. Gauging by body language and vocal tones how other are reacting to what you are saying.

* Having some funny stories about your self, or current events, or obscure information, any of these can be a great catalyst to conversation. Starting a conversation and then listening as others reveal their thoughts is another way to feel included by all involved. (Now in this situation having some information on a topic that you like and are interested is good. This way you are being genuine and that is subconsciously picked up by those around you)

* A great Improv exercise to increase your ability to observe and think and act at the same time is "What Are You Doing", It's also a lot of fun try this with some friends and begin your journey of growth.

* And of course this is just the beginning...

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