So we are in the middle of the party season and I know that for some of you this is a time to look forward, some can't wait to get to a party and socialize with family, friends, and people that can become new friends.

But, for someone who experiences low self confidence parties can be torturous.If you are insecure and feel the fear of rejection, gatherings can a place where all those feeling show their ugly head.

Here are some helpful things to think about when you got to your next social event.

Just Breathe.

When you are on your journey to improve your self confidence it is important to face challenges head on. This can bring stress and anxiety and, it is important to remind yourself to breathe. If you are feeling anxiety and want to turn around and go home, find an affirmation, a mantra, or a calming practice that helps you relax and center yourself. Go to a quiet place and take just a couple minutes to do a technique that works for you. Being able to reassure your self and encourage your self to push forward can help you overcome your insecurities and have some fun.

Show Up with a Smile.

It is amazing what a difference smiling makes. People naturally gravitate to people who smile, they seem more receptive, more warm. This will help tremendously if you have problems approaching people. If you start a conversation with a smile you will find that people want to continue talking to you, they are interested in what you have to say.

When talking to people it is important to engage yourself. Even if you don't have much to contribute, be a good listener, making eye contact, nodding your head or laughing quietly to antidote can allow you to be a part of the conversation and the group.

A Loss For Words.

Doing a little bit of preparation can help you in situations where conversation seems to be slow to start or even non-existent. The most important thing to remember is stay positive, people like to listen to one who is positive. It turns people off when you gossip, complain or always point out the negative. Stay on the brighter side of life.

Here a few more tips to help with conversation.

* People love talking about themselves.It's true, even the most modest and happily humble people will answer any questions you ask about them. Think about what you have learned about the person you are talking to, ask a question that engages them.

* Be in the know. Be aware of current events, stories in the news, latest on buzz on the net. Chances are you can find something that people are interested in and want to talk about.

* Think about what you have been up to, have you read a great book you'd love to recommend? Did you go to a movie that made you laugh? Did you try a delicious recipe that your family loved? If you talk about things that you like you are naturally more excited about them and people will be more responsive.

Dress the Part.

Looking your best can have an extreme effect on how you feel about yourself. If you feel good about your self people take notice.

* So, when you go to a party take some time deciding what to wear. Dress in something that is comfortable and presentable. If you are in something uncomfortable because it is to short, to tight, itchy or simply "not you", you will find your self constantly adjusting and, fidgeting. This will be obvious to other people that you are uncomfortable and it gives the impression of insecurity. No matter what size or shape you are you can always find something that you can look good in.

* Make sure your clothes are clean, with no need of mending, you don't want to be focusing on your baby toe poking out of your sock all night, you want to focus on having fun, right?

* Dress according the event. It make you feel uncomfortable if you stick out because of your attire. If it is a casual house party don't go dressed in a gown, and if it's a black tie event don't go dressed in a sweater your auntie made you and an old pair of jeans. If you are not sure what kind of party it is ask the hostess/ host or a friend who is attending. I always ask a friend, more out of curiosity, what they're wearing to a party and dress at the same level.

* Personal grooming is important. This can be overlooked sometimes but it is important. Take a shower, do your hair, wear deodorant, put on some make up (if you wear it usually), use your favorite perfume or cologne (remember, less is always more), wear your favorite watch or piece of jewelery. Make your self sparkle. People will notice that you put the effort into your appearance and it will give them a positive impression.

Have Fun.

Just remember above all else, it is important to be yourself. Relax, be kind to yourself, breathe. You are there to have fun, meet people, share experiences, and make new ones. You can do this, let yourself shine.

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Skye Haynes is passionate about helping people build their self confidence, find their inner strength, and be true to themselves so they can shine to the world.