"I have set myself a goal to become a more confident car salesman."

"I want to read a book on building my self confidence."

"I keep telling myself I will be more confident and action-oriented."

Are any of the above you?

You might have tried to be a better salesperson, perhaps you pushed yourself read a book on self confidence and you were action-oriented, but you were unable to keep the momentum going for all three.

You started off by missing a day here and a day there for one reason or another, and those days escalated to missing a few days here and there until you only pursued the goals once in a while.

The next step was feeling as if you want to give up. You didn't yet, but you sure felt like it, right?

Pursuing self confidence began to be a chore; you started looking elsewhere for distractions.

Aside from perhaps the desire was not strong enough to keep you motivated, other things come in to play.

So, why did you feel like giving up?

One of the reasons you felt like giving up on chasing the self confidence goal is because you kept falling back into your habitual patterns; those that you have kept and nursed for a very long time.

You see, many people know that it is by far easier to stay as they are than to change; for change needs courage and work.

You are different; you want to change and are ready to put in the time and effort.

So for you to build your self confidence and never ever feel like giving up until you become self confidence, you will have to create new patterns of thought.

You have to create new empowering thought habits; those that support what you are after.

One way for you to start creating those new thought habits and to follow through with your goal of becoming self confident is for you to resist temptation.

Creating the habit of resisting temptation makes you an incredible goal-focused, action-oriented person.

Refrain from watching a programme on TV, keep away from endlessly chatting on the telephone; from anything that you know is distracting you.

Or at least work on reducing temptations and distractions; at least until your objective for the day has been met.

Should you fall prey to persuasion, it is not the end of the world. The thing is, though, you have side-stepped your daily goal, and once you have done that the likelihood of you doing it again increases.

By not sticking to your daily objective you will find that you are not fully committing yourself to your goal. Avoid going astray and stay focused on your goal.

Resist temptation by focusing on the benefits you will gain from becoming self confident, and imagine how your life will change for the better. Realise the power of purpose behind your goal.

Avert from being lured away from your goal.

Pause for a thought: What do you do regularly that doesn't support you when pursuing your daily objective? Make a list of the temptations and distractions that stand in your way, then with a red marker make a big X across the page and rip up the page and throw it away.

Remain committed and do not give in to temptation.

Download the free sample of Self-Confidence Building in 7 http://www.free-self-confidence.com/ Steps and start benefiting today. Visit: http://www.free-self-confidence.com

Hani Al-Qasem is a published author and personal growth specialist. He co-authored Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.