A major key to building self-esteem and developing a healthy body image is loving who you are. I know, it is easier said than done. This is a hard task when you are constantly inundated with negative thoughts and feelings about you. Getting to a healthy self-esteem or body image will not happen overnight. Just like anything else it will take some work, but it can be accomplished.

The first thing you need to do is stop the pity party. You know what I am talking about those moments that you sit, cry and complain about what's not right. You make your own happiness. What I mean by that is you have a choice to be happy or sad. You can choose to waddle in self pity or you can pick yourself up and move forward. It is your choice.

The second thing is change your speech or the things you say about yourself. When you look into the mirror what do you see? Is the first thing that pops into your head something negative? Is the first thing you say something negative about the way you look? Stop! It is time to focus on the positive things, the good attributes. Focus on what you like and build from there.

The third thing you can do is love on yourself. Do something that makes you feel good. Pamper yourself, take a nature walk, whatever it is make sure it is something you love and enjoy doing. This not only makes you feel good, it also shows everyone else that you love yourself and take pride in who you are.

The fourth thing you should do is surround yourself with positive people. Build a support network. These are people that have your best interest at hand. Your support network can consist of family and friends that will build you up and encourage you when you are down. They will tell you the truth in love so that you continue to grow as a person. This is important and key to your transformation.

The fifth thing is understanding that everything is a process. These things will not fall into place overnight. You have to work at them. If you have a bad day, don't go back to the pity parties. Remember tomorrow is a new day and you can start over. Don't give up!

Kenya Johnson, M.P.G.C. http://www.thetotalmakeover.com