Flexibility may be seen as both a set of capabilities (internal: "What can I do?") and a source of competitive advantage (external: "What do others see?").

You might want to make plans that take every possibility into consideration. The sense of restraint could be the result of your desire to guard yourself against the unpredictable and anticipation of every scenario that might arise. Allowing yourself to anticipate the unexpected may help you find the balance between having control in a situation and being spontaneous.

When making plans you might anticipate your plans going awry. As you imagine the scenario of something going awry, ask yourself if you would still enjoy it even though things may not go your way. Thinking about your plans in this way is a way for you to realize that even if things are less than perfect, there can be a wonderful and exciting experience in unexpected events, particularly if you are doing something or with people you especially enjoy.

Being flexible allows you to experience new and exiting ways to live life. Sometimes you want to play it safe and guard everything you do, which can leave you feeling limited and restricted. If you allow yourself to be open to change, however, you are more likely to uncover things that you might not have imagined. Instead of feeling constrained, you will realize limitless possibilities are waiting for you. Striking a balance between what you have your mind set on and what you create will make your life richer and full of amazing experiences that you will value forever.

For example: You might have your mind set on being a marathon winner, a champion skier or the CEO of the Fortune 500 company where you are currently working. What are the odds of you achieving your desires? Doggedly striving for a goal is admirable, but if you add in flexibility, you will find that you are enjoying the journey for the journey's sake and not only just for the prize.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net