A few weeks ago I talked about the topic of having a fear of commitment from the standpoint that we are weary of committing to something we say we want for fear of losing something in our current life.

We also fear commitment because we don't know what lies on the other side of our decisions. Sometimes our dreams and visions can lofty and very unknown to us and frankly really scary.

Having a fear of the unknown is totally common - especially if you have a BIG Vision that you want to manifest and step into. You may daydream about things being different and better, but when you're called on the carpet to actually commit those dreams to paper, it's a whole different story.

Why is this?

When we are tasked with putting our Visions and Dreams on paper we are essentially committing to them manifesting - and subconsciously we're afraid of what will happen to our lives, our relationships and our everyday existence if we actually make the decision and commit to it on paper.

I see this happen all the time. I task a client with the BIG Visioning exercise where they are asked to craft a life where they dream of what they want their lives to look like in every area. This exercise calls on them to use their imagination and creative mind, not their rational, thinking mind.

In this exercise there is no talk of the "how", and it's all about "perfect world" scenarios - that may feel like big, fat pipe dreams. I always say - if you're giggling while you write, you're on the right track!

And not surprisingly, I hear that all sorts of resistance comes up when they go to actually take pen to paper. They get blocked - and don't know why. They can see what they want, but for whatever reason when they go to write it down and actually claim it, they freeze.

Sound familiar?

When this happens we are almost always over a hidden, subconscious belief - a part of us that fears something that we've actually known before and never want to experience again.

We think it's because it's unknown territory - but it's not - we have actually been here before, a long time ago.

Previously all of us, in our lives, stepped-out, shined in our spotlight, and over time (or maybe just one biggie of a time) we were told: "don't do that" - "it's not good to shine" - "good girls don't brag", etc. etc.

And especially when we're really young, and incredibly creative, and sensitive, we take these messages to mean certain things about us. We make these messages mean that it's not good to shine, it's not good to ask for more, essentially, we take-on the belief that we we should hide and play small.

So, doesn't it make sense when you're getting ready to reclaim that part of you - that part that is aching to shine, share and step-out that it would be scary? That the little-girl part would be scared of getting hurt or ridiculed, or maybe humiliated again? so she's going to do everything in her power to keep you "safe" and in your comfort zone?

Brenda Stanton is a leader in the field of female empowerment. A creative visionary, business advisor, and personal coach, Brenda supports women to Claim Your Worth™ in all aspects of life and business. Brenda specializes in helping women to value themselves and show them how to go from feeling like "not enough" to "more than enough" - while transforming their perceptions and beliefs so they feel capable, deserving, and worthy of the life-style and business of their dreams. To learn more about Brenda and her Transformative, Life-Style programs visit her at http://www.brendastanton.com.