If you want to find something, you'll find it. You can find people with big and small family jewelry wherever you go, no matter what people, race, creed, etc. You do realize that you're lining yourself up to be accused of being a racist by talking like this? I haven't met you in person but I would like to know more about your experiences with chinese men and women and what made you decide to focus on this area of discussion?

To be fair, western culture is often labeled as being obsessed with sex. Maybe being stereotyped for so long in a foreign environment makes you feel defensive minded. It sounds like there may be a bigger reason why you want to make this point on the boards. Care to elaborate?