Up to you now, tried to advise you in the past to no avail. You're right, it's none of my business.

I don't mean to sound rude, but I have made it abundantly clear China is not an option, SB accepts that, as does Turnoi, and presumably other posters. Why do you think China is the only job option out there for me? It can be your business if you want, I have no problem with that, and yes, you are right you have tried to advise me in the past, but advising me about China now, is not good advice, at least not to me,it may be for others, just not for me. I do not want to go into depth about it, but I am incredibly pissed off at how they changed the visa rules and I really do not want to go through all that again, to me it is just not worth that stress even for a job at one of the so called "international schools" with the higher pay.....I'd rather sweep streets in bumf***sville, in some north western council estate town, than jump through their hoops again. I hope that explains why China is off the cards, although the stupid visa rules are not the only reason. People I know have moved to Malaysia and the Phillipines because they are sick of the racism and impossible visa rules, even though malaysia is more expensive. Anyway, I mean it, good luck with the move back for your daughter and her education.

DH.