WOW, some people come with unreasonable expectations and soon become disillusioned. Life in China is different to life in America, not better or worse, just different. You need to immerse yourself in daily life, not stay outside looking in, learn a few phrases of Mandarin, chat to the local bike repair man or security guys; even if you can't understand each other, you will soon feel part of the local community. After a while the locals will even stop staring at you. Well, maybe not, but you can only wish. My advice to anyone thinking of teaching in China is to be really honest with yourself.