Good-willed folks are always in doubt of many things, except for the truly virtuous and truly unjustified things that they believe strongly in. You truly believe in the idea that the poster whom you are responding to as well as my opinions have flaws in them and need changing. I can tell you right now that if you can only accept anything we say as good will hinges on us compromising then you should just give up. The courtesy and tolerance has already been given to you. You certainly are not changing my opinion, if anything you are showing why it's a bad idea to work in China. You will be drawn to some of the worst expats around.