I think that really is a bit of good advice. An American guy I know also says that if a Chinese woman talks about buying an apartment or visas on a first date then that is a big red flag, sounds like obvious common sense I know. Whatever, that woman is to be ditched immediatley, a man obviously has no future with a woman like that.

You've said enough to convince me that you and your crowd are answering Chinese women on dating sites and QQ. i'm surprised that some of these women wait until a first actual date before bringing up such topics- usually after the first photos have been swapped online these women will find it appropriate to sound you out about where the both of you will lodge. None of the Chinese women I've dated have ever said such things-first date or the tenth; or, are you making these things up as you go along?