I tell all the new foreign teachers, men and women, when it comes to dating "say no more than you say yes." I sat next to a girl on a bus when she received a text from her foreign born IELTS teacher working in Shanghai. It read: "I still love my wife. I will forgive her for gambling away all my money and running away with a younger man. Her son and I are still waiting for her."
I went three years in between gfs in China.