People with low self-esteem have certain bad habits in common. By avoiding to fall into the same habits, you can optimize your chances for keeping your self-esteem high.

1. People with low self-esteem miss opportunities that arise in their lives. Because they are afraid of failure, they don't dare to take risks. If you don't dare to take risks and step out of your comfort zone, you will also miss out on many opportunities that arise.

2. People who have low self-esteem are jealous. Because they expect others to feel about them in the same negative way as they feel about themselves, they cannot believe that anyone can truly love them. Consequently, they always expect to be dumped by their partners, and in order to avoid this from happening they keep their eyes open for signs that it is indeed about to happen. As a result they are overly suspicious whenever their partners spend time with people of the opposite sex or behave in ways that can be interpreted as that they do not love their low self-esteem partners.

3. People with low self-esteem are anxious. Low self-esteem people are worried that their colleagues and friends will one day discover who they really are. They don't dare to be themselves, and because they are pretending to be somebody they are not, they are constantly anxious that their true nature with be found out.

4. People with low self-esteem try to defend themselves. For example, many low self-esteem individuals react in a very aggressive way whenever they receive negative feedback. Because they don't feel good enough they try to lift themselves up by pressing others down. It may go as far as blaming others for mistakes that they are responsible for.

5. People who have a low self-esteem back-talk. In an (often unconscious) attempt to make themselves look better, people with low self-esteem talk negatively about others behind their back. This has negative consequences, not only for the person who was spoken about, but also for the listeners and the speaker.

6. People with low self-esteem are experts at finding faults in others. Low self-esteem people feel better when they can see faults in the people around them. Therefore, they are experts at finding negative qualities in others. By looking for and finding faults in others, their liking of these people decrease. People with low self-esteem like other people less than people with high self-esteem

7. People with a low self-esteem have unhealthy lifestyles. In order to take good care of your health, you need to believe that you are important enough to be taken care of. People with low self-esteem don't feel important and therefore don't see any point in taking care of their health.

8. People with low self-esteem listen to media with negative messages. Rather than brainwashing themselves with positive messages, people who have low self-esteem watch soap operas and films that make them feel like they are not good enough, read magazines that let them know that everyone else is better-looking and lead more exciting lives, and listen to sad love songs about loneliness.

9. People with low self-esteem are bad at saying no. When they are asked for favours that they don't actually want to do, people with a low self-esteem find it extremely difficult to day no. Rather than risking that the other person would start to dislike them, they instead take on more work than they would like to do. As a result, they often end up spending their lives working to please others rather than doing things for their own sake.

10.P eople with low self-esteem don't take enough time for themselves. Because they constantly want to please others, people with low self-esteem rarely take enough time on doing things that they enjoy doing or that increase their well-being. By doing this, they unfortunately both send themselves the message that they are not important enough, and they don't develop their self-awareness.

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