Self esteem is believed to be a result of success and accomplishment, or of popularity. In reality, it's a simple matter of living your truth. You have seen this. You have seen the fat girl who is popular and funny. You have probably also seen the successful athlete who was tongue tied when he was handed the microphone. We will explain how this happens so that you can become the person you never thought you could be.

Phase One: Connect to your Spirit

This can be done by meditation, or coherent breathing, or by learning bio-feedback or by playing Wild Divine. The idea is to disconnect from earthbound egoic stress and to re-connect to your spirit. However you do this, you will move resources from the back of your brain (reptilian brain and fight or flight response area) to the front of your brain for optimum cognitive function and intuition. Thinking clearly does wonders for your self esteem.

This might seem counter intuitive to you, but you can't be afraid if you are breathing at 5 breaths/minute. To be afraid, your breathing must become more shallow and fast. This is a response to changes in the brain that signal such a response. But, if you ignore those signals, and instead slow and deepen your breathing, you will change the initial alarm signal to one of calm and safety. The rate of 5 breaths per minute synchronizes your heartbeat with your breathing and activates the autonomic nervous system to activate your natural healing systems. This alone has allowed mountain climbers to climb higher without needing oxygen. Having good oxygen metabolism makes you feel more confident. Shallow oxygen processing makes you feel nervous.

Meditation enhances your sense of calm and more. During meditation, you slow and deepen your breathing, and clear your mind, making it available to receive intuition, creative ideas or solutions to your most vexing problems. This helps you to stay connected to your spirit, no matter how life seems to be trying to knock you off your path. This is advantageous for self esteem.

Phase Two: Disconnect from your Pain Body

I have borrowed a useful concept here from Eckhart Tolle. We are all too familiar with the pain body. Simply remember any time when an angry friend or family member took you out of a good mood, and put you in an angry place. That was their pain body inflaming yours. The pain body is part of our ego, and not of our spirit. The pain body is activated when one of our negative emotions is activated.

This is what happens when the successful athlete is unable to be natural when the microphone is handed to him. The microphone does this to many. It represents a challenge to your pride, and fear of failure because it magnifies your voice, usually in front of an audience.

The easiest way to disconnect from the negative emotions is to implant a positive emotion. Love works well. Simply send love to your audience, or take a sip of water in which you have planted love and gratitude.

Ho'oponopono is an Hawaiian method of problem solving that involves love and gratitude, forgiveness and belief. "I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you." Clear your heart and mind daily with Ho'oponopono and you will never fear.

Nancy J. Stremmel is the co-owner and developer of: http://www.Mindbridge-LOA.com the compendium of information on the Law of Attraction. She is a writer, licensed Social Worker, educator, artist and therapist. She believes that everyone can make the Law of Attraction work for them.