If you have a low sense of self-esteem you may find it quite convenient to blame a whole lot of people for your troubles. People will often do anything from complaining about the way they were brought up to blaming other people around them. However when it comes to the reality of the situation, the only people that affect how we see ourselves is us. Ask yourself if you're the person doing the putting down by asking these questions:

What is My Sense of Self-Value?

How much time do you spend on taking care of yourself? Do you eat the right meals and exercise regularly? Do you visit your doctors at the right time or do you neglect to take care of yourself and fail to do things that add value to your life?

Is Intimacy a Problem?

When you have a mind that feels you don’t deserve to have happiness or that you don’t deserve to be loved by others, you have a problem. People who shy away from people around them and fail to truly connect with others on a really intimate level are in the low self-esteem category. Find the time to discuss issues that other people talks about and share the intimate needs and dreams that you have with others.

Is Putting Yourself Down a Regular Activity?

With enough people around ready to kill your spirit and your sense of self-worth, it’s a pretty dumb move to keep doing it yourself. If you’re harder on yourself than other people are on you then you have a problem. If you expect more of yourself than you expect of other people then you may have a similar problem. Saying and thinking negatively about yourself also fall into this category.

Too Busy for Yourself and Others?

If you’re always too busy to deal with the problems of your job and with the problems of people around you, you may be killing yourself with low self-esteem. Take some time and consider your problems and what you need personally and emotionally.

Is Happiness a Problem for You?

If you hate where you are now and desire a whole lot more, it might be a reflection of an inclination towards low self-esteem. If you desire everything else that everyone else has and you’re not satisfied with all that you have, it might be indicative of low self-esteem problems.

Do You Take Care of Yourself?

If you neglect to take care of yourself and your clothing because you regularly feel that you don’t deserve to look good then you have a problem.

Depending on the number of “yes” answers you’ve given to the problems above, you may be suffering from a huge sense of low self-esteem. In order to remedy these problems you should take a closer look at yourself and your life and resolve these issues. Self-esteem is not a disease that cannot be cured. Take a serious look at your life and define solutions for yourself.

Darren Williger writes for www.beemotivated.com, www.beeyourself.com, and www.singlefather.com