Yes, I feel that you have a good understanding of this mindset. You have experienced it first hand.

China could really be a great society I think but not ever with the current system. Apart from the social restraints in China there is the obvious lack of democracy and the rule of law. Not to mention ongoing human rights abuses.

There is a glimmer of hope though as recently I've seem contestants on "If You Are The One" ( Fei Chang Wu Rao ) openly rejecting many Chinese societal norms.

Even one guy suggesting the younger Chinese should "go their own way", he means PGTOW ( People Going Their Own Way ), not just men.

Sadly, many Chinese will never go their own way. They will listen to all the bullshit they hear from parents/politicians/teachers.

Western society still also has a lot of blue pill type men who are basically wage slaves, white knight types and manginas.