You have bragged about your Chinese wife and your kid on here many times. You are sounding like a hypocrite now. So you obviously do think that marrying a farm girl from a poor family and having a kid with her is an "achievement". As far as ex-pats in Asia go you are not high up on the totem pole, you better believe it. Once thing I 've noticed in China is that laowai mostly go for the lowest of the low in regard to women, lol!

If you're a common office clerk in the UK, Australia, wherever, it's likely that any overtures you make to the bosses daughter will fall on deaf ears- I don't know why you think that common FT's of which you were one should be any more welcomed by rich girls in China. Now listen, you tried your best, and it was well documented at the time to find a Chinese wife when you were an FT in China. You didn't succeed, so don't stop others, please. Actually, most men don't look for wives anyway, you and your badly-married-to-Chinese/Asian friends are the exceptions, and that may say a lot for the quality of their wives and themselves.